Photo by Stephanie Rogers Photography
We wanted to share Three Reasons to Consider a First Look on your wedding day to help with your wedding planning. One of the most common questions we’re asked is “should we do a first look?” Like always, we’re here to provide you with some insights based on our experience as wedding photographers. Like our own wedding, the day flew by and felt like a blur. Before we knew it the day was over and we felt like we missed so much of it. There’s another lesson or tip for another post, where you can focus more mindfully throughout your wedding day. But right now, we’re going to share three reasons to consider a first look. Creating a private moment together can be an incredibly emotional and personal moment. The decision for when that should happen is an important one. We hope that this list of positives for doing a first look will help you find which option is right for you!
First of all, what is a first look? A first look is when the couple sees each other prior to the wedding ceremony. This is in a private setting where you both can have alone time and let all your emotions about the day be shared together. A lot of couples feel wedding day nerves and jitters. Those feelings end up washing away as soon as they see their partner during their first look. This is your person by the way, why not have their support throughout the entirety of your celebration? You may even love this just so you can feel grounded by your partner in the day.
Three Reasons to Consider a First Look
Photo by Stephanie Rogers Photography
“Our first look was my favorite part of the day! Amid all of the chaos of planning and organizing and making sure wedding party members arrived on time, this was a quick escape from it all. A stolen moment to breathe and share together the start of our next big adventure; “We are getting married!!” – Sophia (view their wedding blog here)
1. Privacy
A first look can allow for an intimate moment of unfiltered, raw emotion that is shared between just the two of you. Since weddings are about celebrating the union of two people in love, taking a moment to step out of the spotlight and simply enjoy each other’s presence is invaluable. This can calm your nerves and help you be more present during the rest of the day. Don’t worry, nothing can take away that “oh my gosh this is really happening” feeling as you’re walking down the aisle. You’ll still feel all of the emotions throughout the day all while having an intentional private moment together.
You can also use this time to share private vows together that you don’t want expressed in front of 100 plus people. If you decided to also give each other a gift you can also take your time giving each other this as well!
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2. Flexibility in the timeline.
By seeing each other before the ceremony, you will have more time to spend together which allows for more flexibility in the timeline. Group photos such as wedding party and family photos can be taken before the ceremony instead of during cocktail hour. Often times the couple doesn’t get to see their guests during cocktail hour or enjoy their custom made cocktails. Imagine having all of your photos taken before the ceremony, enjoying cocktail hour with your guests, AND not feeling rushed throughout it all. This is especially helpful for winter weddings so that you can have all your portraits and family photos taken before an early sunset.
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“Our first look was the most magical moment of our day. Thanks to Bradley, we found a secret alley garden behind our hotel that was a surprising oasis from the flurry of our downtown wedding day. Seeing each other for the first time that day, while tucked away from the street and our family and friends gave us the sweetest moment of meditation together before we embarked on our day. Stephanie and Bradley perfectly captured our nerves,our surprise, our love and our joy at seeing each other and sharing this moment alone together.” – Stephanie and Alex
3. More portraits!
A first look offers more time for more photos! You’ve spent a lot of time finding the right photographer and you want to give them the time to capture some awesome photos of you! If your photographer is rushed throughout the wedding day, they probably won’t be able to capture many photos of you before rushing off to the next thing. Your photographer can also spend more time capturing photos of your wedding party and details throughout your wedding venue before guests arrive.
You’ve spent so much time planning and creating a vision together for your day. This truly helps your photographer capture as many photos of every little detail for you to remember forever.
Photo by Stephanie Rogers Photography
Photo by Stephanie Rogers Photography
“We never intended to do a first look. However, we were faced with a torrential downpour of rain and a logistical nightmare trying to stay dry and not see each other prior to the wedding. We decided a first look would be the easiest way to work with the weather. Little did we know, it would also be one of our favorite, most cherished moments of the wedding. That moment, which we chose to share privately (joined only by Stephanie and Bradley), was grounding and breathtaking to say the least. In that perfect moment, nobody else existed. We were reminded of why we were throwing this huge party and what it was all about. We were captivated by one another and had the luxury of relishing in that captivation pressure-free.” – Avery and Caitlyn
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“It was also in this moment that Avery confessed to me that she had spiked my morning protein shake with Bailey’s the day before the wedding, in hopes of helping me calm my nerves. Stephanie and Bradley were able to capture this hilarious moment and it remains one of my favorites.”
Photo by Stephanie Rogers Photography
Ultimately this is a very personal choice that should be carefully considered. If this is a moment that you want to share with everyone at your wedding, the traditional route may be the best choice for you. If you want a quiet moment alone, a first look might be the best option. We hope these three reasons to consider a first look have helped give you a few perspectives in helping you make your decision. However you want to do it, we’re there to capture it all.
